Salon: 'Unwanted childlessness, an invisible loss'

unwanted childlessness,

an invisible loss

conducted by Odile van Eck

Monday 21 May from 19.00 – 21.30

Center Venwoude, Vuurse Steeg 1, Lage-Vuursche

Unwanted childlessness, an invisible loss

Relatives, friends and colleagues of childless people are expressly invited to this evening.

One in six couples experience fertility problems. Ten percent of them remain childless. Many single people live with an unfulfilled desire to have children. From this you can conclude thateverybody directly or indirectly with unwanted childlessness.

Childlessness involves a complex grieving process; what one loses is invisible but has a huge impact on life. No one becomes childless on a desert island; in the midst of fertile and reproducing contemporaries, feelings of loneliness, no longer belonging, missing the boat play a major role. From the environmental side, ignorance and clumsiness often play a role in dealing with their childless loved ones.

In her approach she emphasizes the systemic aspect of this loss. Just as the arrival of (grand)children sets the entire system in motion, the arrival of fertility problems and childlessness also creates a pervasive dynamic. Because this is often not recognized or recognized, this aspect of life does not become integrated, which results in a lot of extra and unnecessary suffering.

More information leads to more knowledge and awareness; it gives us all the opportunity to take up this empty space in life in our family and friends. And this is much needed!

After a thorough introduction to this subject, an exchange and a joint research into how this theme can be better integrated into society follows.

Odile van Eck (1957) is herself undesirably childless. Due to the pain of her childlessness, she has embarked on a spiritual quest. Since 1994 she has been guiding people in integrating their childlessness. She regularly gives lectures and involves the social environment where possible. She wrote three books; her last book 'An invisible loss' was published in 2010.

We would like to invite you to this salon on Monday May 21, 2012. The salon starts at 19.00:21.30 PM and lasts until XNUMX:XNUMX PM.


Eating together

It is possible to have a cozy and inspiring meal together before the salon. We eat a vegetarian meal between 18.00 pm and 18.30 pm. The costs are € 12,50 pp (in cash and to be paid to the CHE Salonhost there) and it is appreciated if we help clean up. For a good planning of the kitchen and the purchases, we pass on the number of diners on Friday morning. So give your time (no later than Thursday 17 May 2012) on via

If you can't come unexpectedly, send a text to Diana the Great 06-43825794.



We offer these salons based on the "purpose and principles" of the CHE and in order to make this permanently possible in the future, we ask you for a financial contribution, the recommended amount is €5.


Provisional program of upcoming salons

  • Monday 4 June: Jannet Ossebaard and Peter Merry – Crop Circles
  • Monday June 18: Lenne Gieles – Essence coaching.


And also possible, become a donor!

Organized by volunteers for volunteers. And the CHE has costs. From the Chamber of Commerce and the website to wanting to compensate for the time that goes into making connections between parties that enter into collaborations that they could not have dreamed of. To continue to make all this possible, we invite you to become a donor of the CHE.

With an automatic transfer of at least € 20 per month you make our work possible. The Center for Human Emergence NL is recognized as a charity, so your donations are tax deductible. You can register as a donor by sending an email to  and/or transfer a one-time donation or monthly amount directly to account number in the name of the Center for Human Emergence Foundation in The Hague. More information can be found here. Incidentally, individual contributions are also very welcome.

Yours faithfully,

Odile van Eck, Marinet Ritz and Diana de Groot